A Work of Art

I found this as I was cleaning up some files today. I hope that it means as much to you as it does to me. Sometimes through great tribulation, is birthed great art.

Edward Fischer writes in Notre Dame Magazine (February, 1983), that a leper in Fiji followed the leading of his twisted hands. He became an internationally known artist. "My sickness I see as a gift of God leading me to my life's work," he said. "If it had
not been for my sickness, none of these things would have happened."
As a young girl, Jessamyn West had tuberculosis. She was so sick that she was sent away to die. During that time she developed her skill as a writer and authored numerous novels in her lifetime.
That great author Flanner O'Connor suffered numerous ailments -- lupus struck her at 25 and she walked only with the aid of crutches for the final fourteen years of her life. She noted, however, that this illness narrowed her activities in such a way that she had time for the real work of her life, which was writing.
Some people succeed in spite of handicaps. Others succeed because of them. The truth is...our problems help to make us what we are. Those who suffer often learn the value of
compassion. Those who struggle often learn perseverance. And those who fall down
often teach others how to rise again. Our troubles can shape us in ways a care-free existence cannot.
A story is told of an Eastern village which, through the centuries, was known for its exquisitely beautiful pottery. Especially striking were its urns; high as tables, wide as
chairs, they were admired around the globe for their strong form and delicate beauty.
Legend has it that when each urn was apparently finished, there was one final step. The artist broke it -- and then put it back together with gold filigree.
An ordinary urn was then transformed into a priceless work of art. What seemed finished wasn't...until it was broken.
So it is with people! Broken by hardships, disappointments and tragedy, they can be either discarded or healed. But when mended by a hand of infinite patience and love, the finished product will be a work of exquisite beauty -- a life which could only reach its completeness after it was broken.
If you feel broken remember...you are a work of art! And you may not actually be complete until the pieces are reassembled and bonded with a golden filigree of love.

Copyright 1999 by Steve Goodier

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HOW TO START A GARDEN…

WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE DOING.

First, this came about as a way for me to take some ownership of where I was at in my physical existence. My boyfriend, significant other, life partner (oh, I don’t even like that one!) or whatever term you like to insert here, Jim are currently living in a house, sharing it with his friend Richard. He and I share a small bedroom and have use of the rest of the house as well. It wouldn’t be so bad if it weren’t for the fact that we can’t really afford to live anywhere else and I feel like I have no other choice. We only planned to be here for a few weeks, but it has turned into over two years now.

Part of my problem is that I am used to be in charge of making household decisions. How things are set up, where things are stored, etc. I am doing better now, but I really struggled with having to share those decisions with someone. After all, both of the husbands I have had, I didn’t give a whit about any such thing. So for all of my adult life I have made those decisions for myself. Now I had to face the fact that I was now going to have to share those decisions with someone with whom I am not comfortable being around.

Anyway, the garden was a way for me to regain a little control of decision making in my life. It has been very therapeutic for me.

THE GARDEN

If you want to plant a garden, you first need to have a place to put it. I looked at the back yard here and realized that there was some space that was partially fenced off that had one time been used as a garden. I took it upon myself to reclaim some of that space to plant a few things. Something rather small and simple, having no idea of how what to do next.

First I chose a space that both had some sun exposure and was not so far away from the house that I would not want to go out there. Then I had to think about how big a garden I could manage. I knew from the way my physical health had been that I might want to keep it small, just so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed.

Next, I had to prepare the soil. I started with my little garden trowel and began digging up the grass and weed that had been there for several years. I figured if I did a little at a time, I would be able to do that pretty easily. All the weed pulling and digging took me about three weeks; after all I was working back then. If you saw it, you would laugh. It is only about 3 feet square.

My next task was to decide what it was that I wanted to plant in my garden. I had some ideas of what I didn’t want. Tomatoes were out, Richard was the only one who really eats raw tomatoes, and I just don’t know if it would be worth it. Plus, not knowing what I am doing and having to deal with the local wildlife didn’t seem to be a good idea. Green beans, same thing except I love green beans, it’s the animal thing I would have to deal with. I finally went to Wal-Mart and took a look at what they had that was affordable. I finally decided on a couple of squash plants and picked up some other gardening supplies (potting soil, Miracle-Gro, etc) as well. I know Jim like spinach and I thought I might try that, too.

Okay, now we are ready to go and had to find the time and plant things. How to do any of this was just a guess to me. I just did most of it by using common sense.

I got started a little late and for most people that know me that is not a big surprise. Anyway, by the time I got started on this project we were into May. As I said, I was working, plus we had a really rainy spring here. So there were delays upon delays. By the time I got the squash in the ground it was late May and a little bit late for planting, but I was assured that it was not too late. I also decided that I would put in some potatoes, since that didn’t involve purchasing anything extra. I had potatoes under the kitchen sink.

Along with the potatoes and squash I also planted some sunflowers that were started by one of the children at church. I also wanted to have something for the deck outside, so I started some coleus from seed, something else new to me.

The coleus turned out very well. I ended up with three boxes of beautiful plants. I did learn that they don’t like too much sun. They look beautiful out on the deck.

I am going to stop here, but check back soon and I will tell you how the garden actually did.

What’s Missing?

There are a lot of things to consider when it comes to making changes in how Christians practice what they believe. For nearly 2000 years we have ascribed to a few basic concepts. Humanity is basically sinful. Jesus came to save that world lost in that sin. To be redeemed from that sin, we need to repent and believe that Jesus came to this Earth to be the ultimate sacrifice. And once we believe that we cannot save our selves, but only through Jesus can we be saved, then we will go to Heaven when we die. What about the rest of the message of Jesus? It would be different if all that Jesus did were come to Earth and die on the cross to be the ultimate sacrifice. If we believe the Bible and the stories in it, then we have to realize that Jesus was much more than a substitution sacrifice for our sins. In other words, it was about more than salvation!

If what Jesus came for was to show us a new and different way of living, what is that way that He was trying to show us? In Mr. McLaren’s book, “Everything Must Change”, he says that there are two basic questions to look at. The first, “What are the biggest problems in the world?” And to follow up, “What does Jesus have to say about these global problems?”

Okay, in my prior writings, I told you a bit about myself and what this whole topic means to me. I have known for some time that in order to make a difference in this world, there needed to be a different attitude towards the world issues we see growing closer and worse every day. Now I need to tell you what the information in this book has caused me to think about. When I think about the questions posed, I automatically think of some of the most serious problems we face. It really comes down to what the Catholic Church calls the “seven deadly sins”. Greed, Sloth, Lust, Wrath, Envy, Gluttony and Pride. Or at least that is what is most basic. To be more specific we have to talk about our world condition. Because of all these deadly sins, we have genocide, global warming, poverty and extreme hunger. Then there are the problems regarding the love of power. Nations rising up against nation and violence against the innocent. I could go on and on, but at this point it seems overwhelming, doesn’t it? Mr. McLaren also provides some lists that different leaders or groups have published of what they believe are the most serious issues of our day. For those lists you will need to read the book.

It would seem that we as Christians would know what the message of Jesus has to say about such problems. Maybe it is just too simple for some. Jesus healed the sick, opened the eyes of the blind, raised the dead and generally ministered to those with whom He had contact. What is so complicated about that? This is the part where I believe that the head talk started coming in to play. I mean, I am a pretty simple and direct person and to me the answer is pretty clear. Do what Jesus did. Sometimes we make things way too difficult.

For the time we have spent talking, in the book study, I had known something was missing. I believe I knew what it was, but last week, at lunch, Matt said it, the thing that was missing in this whole discussion. LOVE Love is what’s missing. We have talked all around it, but it has all been head talk. I mean you can talk about change all you like, but if any of this is going to work, the love of Christ has to be in the equation. Just what is the Love of Christ? You tell me…

What is it that we need to do, Part Deux?

In the first piece, I stated that I was having a difficult time talking about how I understand or what I feel about “Everything Must Change”. I mentioned how that Mr. McLaren doesn’t talk about Jesus in the way most of us have heard. I have since learned that there is a reason for not talking about the traditional salvation message. It is really been talked about so much that we have missed the rest of what Jesus has to say. For many, this has been a difficult book to talk about. Not because the topic itself is so unmentionable, but more that when we talk about Jesus and being church, it is usually a more spiritual, philosophical discussion. In this study, we are getting down to the ‘nuts and bolts’, so to speak. Some may say, “You’ve now gone from preaching to meddlin’!”

Now that I’ve said that, let me give a bit of my background and tell you how this topic has affected me. I think it started when I was 15 years old and I went on a mission trip with the Youth group at Metropolitan Baptist Church. I had been a part of this group since I was 8 years old and the trip was one of those “rites of passage” that we all look forward to. It was on that trip that my mind and heart were changed. My whole view of the world and of Christianity had changed. I realized for the first time that there were people in the world who were really suffering. We as young Christians were blown away by the amount of poverty we saw and were determined to make a difference.

As the years went by, I began to see the world through different eyes. I began to see new and different ways that we, as the Church might be able to reach out to the world. Some of it was naïve, I guess, but the spark was there nonetheless.

Then, in 1995 I moved into Americana. I have always cared about missions. I have always been concerned about the poor. I have always wanted to know more about the world and different cultures. Moving in to Americana did something to me. It was there that I learned so much about the rest of the world. I learned so much about the different cultures and had such a beautiful experience; it was really difficult for me when I had to move.

Americana is an apartment complex, here in Louisville. The apartments themselves have been here for about 60 years or so. They were originally built as military housing, but in recent years, have been home to many of this city’s marginally poor and a first home for many of the refugees coming to the United States. People from all the poorest places in the world, who come to Louisville, often live in Americana till they can get on their feet.

I had neighbors from Vietnam, Bosnia, El Salvador and Cuba. That was just in my building. There were also people from Iraq, Sudan, Laos, Nigeria, Nicaragua and Mexico. While the rest of the community struggled with the change, I saw the residents struggle with prejudice and fear.

As I look back, I see that I was almost always at odds with the ministers in my life. Still am, to some degree. I wasn’t at odds because I was trying to cause trouble. It was more like I didn’t see the world, or didn’t want to see the world the way that the Church or the church I knew saw it. I questioned preachers regarding doctrine, I read book after book, I listened to professors in college talk about religion and yet there were still things that just didn’t seem to fit.

I had read the stories of Jesus, sung the songs and listened to countless sermons. It still seemed like we were saying one thing and yet, doing something else. I mean, Jesus said to “Love your neighbor, as yourself”. Yet, there are so many things that we, as Christians should be doing. Someone else knows that we are missing the point!!! I really didn’t believe I was the only one who thought there was a problem. It is one thing to want to save the world; it is another to figure out how to save it.

In the book, “Everything Must Change”, there is a challenge to reexamine the stories of Jesus. We are challenged to look at the world’s problems and try to see what Jesus would really do. With his two questions, McLaren challenges us to take a look at what Jesus said and did, in the context of His time and how might we apply it to the world’s problems, today.

If you are reading this, please make a comment. I am really looking for feedback.

What is it that we need to do, as Christians, in the postmodern world in which we live?

I am currently involved in a book study at Highland Baptist Church. It seems to me, that I am having a difficult time expressing my opinions regarding the issues raised in the book we are reading. Let me begin by telling you the name of the book, it’s author and then I will attempt to write here what my thoughts and feelings are regarding the book’s content.

The name of the book is ‘Everything Must Change, Jesus, Global Crises, and a Revolution of Hope’, written by Brian McLaren. Mr. McLaren has also written several other books, including ‘The Secret Message of Jesus’ and ‘A Generous Orthodoxy’. His work focuses primarily on what the message of Jesus is and how it relates to our world today. In Everything Must Change, McLaren poses two questions. The first, “What are the biggest problems facing the world, today?” He has several lists, from numerous sources. The second is, “What does Jesus have to say about these global problems?”

Mr. McLaren’s books are highly recommended by those who are interested in what is called the “emerging church” movement. Some would say that this is a cult, attempting to draw those who have been disillusioned by the ‘church’ into some false sense of “whatever I do is okay” and putting less emphasis on the salvific message we traditionally see in the Gospels. Others believe that maybe this is a way to rethink how we are as Christians. How do we apply the message of Jesus in our world today?

While I realize that there is definitely less emphasis on salvation in McLaren’s writings, I don’t believe that we have to see it that way. I believe that his ideas have merit. I don’t think he believes we should deny salvation altogether, and if he does, well he is just one man. I am going to put it out there…I am interested in what others think.

I may be opening a can of worms here, but I do value others opinions.

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