WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE DOING.
First, this came about as a way for me to take some ownership of where I was at in my physical existence. My boyfriend, significant other, life partner (oh, I don’t even like that one!) or whatever term you like to insert here, Jim are currently living in a house, sharing it with his friend Richard. He and I share a small bedroom and have use of the rest of the house as well. It wouldn’t be so bad if it weren’t for the fact that we can’t really afford to live anywhere else and I feel like I have no other choice. We only planned to be here for a few weeks, but it has turned into over two years now.
Part of my problem is that I am used to be in charge of making household decisions. How things are set up, where things are stored, etc. I am doing better now, but I really struggled with having to share those decisions with someone. After all, both of the husbands I have had, I didn’t give a whit about any such thing. So for all of my adult life I have made those decisions for myself. Now I had to face the fact that I was now going to have to share those decisions with someone with whom I am not comfortable being around.
Anyway, the garden was a way for me to regain a little control of decision making in my life. It has been very therapeutic for me.
THE GARDEN
If you want to plant a garden, you first need to have a place to put it. I looked at the back yard here and realized that there was some space that was partially fenced off that had one time been used as a garden. I took it upon myself to reclaim some of that space to plant a few things. Something rather small and simple, having no idea of how what to do next.
First I chose a space that both had some sun exposure and was not so far away from the house that I would not want to go out there. Then I had to think about how big a garden I could manage. I knew from the way my physical health had been that I might want to keep it small, just so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed.
Next, I had to prepare the soil. I started with my little garden trowel and began digging up the grass and weed that had been there for several years. I figured if I did a little at a time, I would be able to do that pretty easily. All the weed pulling and digging took me about three weeks; after all I was working back then. If you saw it, you would laugh. It is only about 3 feet square.
My next task was to decide what it was that I wanted to plant in my garden. I had some ideas of what I didn’t want. Tomatoes were out, Richard was the only one who really eats raw tomatoes, and I just don’t know if it would be worth it. Plus, not knowing what I am doing and having to deal with the local wildlife didn’t seem to be a good idea. Green beans, same thing except I love green beans, it’s the animal thing I would have to deal with. I finally went to Wal-Mart and took a look at what they had that was affordable. I finally decided on a couple of squash plants and picked up some other gardening supplies (potting soil, Miracle-Gro, etc) as well. I know Jim like spinach and I thought I might try that, too.
Okay, now we are ready to go and had to find the time and plant things. How to do any of this was just a guess to me. I just did most of it by using common sense.
I got started a little late and for most people that know me that is not a big surprise. Anyway, by the time I got started on this project we were into May. As I said, I was working, plus we had a really rainy spring here. So there were delays upon delays. By the time I got the squash in the ground it was late May and a little bit late for planting, but I was assured that it was not too late. I also decided that I would put in some potatoes, since that didn’t involve purchasing anything extra. I had potatoes under the kitchen sink.
Along with the potatoes and squash I also planted some sunflowers that were started by one of the children at church. I also wanted to have something for the deck outside, so I started some coleus from seed, something else new to me.
The coleus turned out very well. I ended up with three boxes of beautiful plants. I did learn that they don’t like too much sun. They look beautiful out on the deck.
I am going to stop here, but check back soon and I will tell you how the garden actually did.
